The Hikikomori can’t fit in the madness of the world, and they are charged as the crazy and weak ones for that.
In a world ruled by the slavery of the System of the Beast, being socially withdrawn can be a trait of fortitude and resistance against evil.
That can be seen as weakness, as all avoidance of taking part in the games of darkness generally are.
I could be a Hikikomori myself, and certainly I was seriously called to die at least two times in my life. It is very fair, since I was so much saved and spared from living in the darkness and dying, that I do my best now to try to help, with my best understanding of the issue, those that are struggling with this evil today.
We are going to talk about some heavy load spiritual stuff here. But I am confident that we can fight darkness with the help of God and avoid death. The Lord said himself: “I don’t have pleasure in the death of whoever it is”. With our goodwill and the help of God, no one else needs to die.
You don’t owe nothing to the world
First, I guess we need to acknowledge the strengths of the Hikikomori, so we can depart from that secure position to later cover the real weaknesses and what needs to be done.
I only care about spiritual stuff. For a very simple reason: with spiritual things right, all things get right along; but with spiritual things going wrong, nothing else can be done to reach really good results. The Hikokomori probably are already paranoid enough to distrust psychological and therapy solutions to their main issue. And they are right, there is no solution for the lack of love and compassion in the System of the Beast, and generally psychology works just as a recycling and refitting process to reinstall the before broken part back together into the big machine of evil.
We need to raise the bar. Psychology will only distort the perception of reality to make it more palatable, in the end of the day bringing the infallible argument of conformity: “this is how the world works, so just suck it”. I am not going to play this, though. We need to raise the bar.
The spiritual outlook is like this: the Hikikomori can’t fit in the System of the Beast, so naturally they get socially withdrawn and they pay for this with lots of consequences in their lives (including, to be fair, some psychological issues), and sometimes making others around them to pay for this too, like parents and family.
To get things right, we need to stablish this: no human creature owes nothing to this world. Our real relationship since birth to death is with the Creator of all things, God Almighty. To Him we owe everything, and He, instead of charging us the bill, actually paid the bill Himself and opened forever a way to meet Him and His Love (this is the story of Jesus Christ).
What does this means for the Hikikomori? This means that all that pressure that he feels around him, to make him (or her) fit into the System like a good functional part in a machine, is not coming from the Highest authority, but from the accuser and enemy of human freedom, the Devil, who is the very ruler of the System of the Beast. The Devil is the accuser that is using his minions to push everybody into being part in the building of this breakaway civilization with the purpose to defy the authority of God and make a living independently of the Will and the Power of the Creator. This is a lie and a morbid joke, actually the plan is to deceive humanity, and to trap them inside this formidable cage build by themselves.
Somehow the weakness that make us unfit to serve as good slaves in the system is actually a bless from the Lord, so we can live actually much more free lives, but that with the condition of our spiritual awareness. And here the real problem starts for the Hikokomori, in my view.
Resentment, tragedy, Gnosis
Being so complex and sophisticated, obviously the System of the Beast have built-in protocols to deal with socially withdrawn people. When the normal peer pressure and the bullying fails to force people to behave accordingly, other routines in the system automatically gets activated to deal with the anomaly.
The first protocol regards the growth of resentment. To prevent the Hikikomori to know God and Love, the system offers a full menu of cultural dishes to plant the seed of resentment and hate in the hearts of the Hikikomori. Culture is spiritual food. Every music we listen, every book we read, every show or movie we watch, is spiritual food. We can be nurtured by good food, as well as we can be poised by toxic food. There is a vast variety of spiritual food made for the Hikikomori in order to transform their spiritual freedom in to resentment, as not being part of the madness of the world will be seen not as a gift from the Lord, but as a failure in their lives, as if they are cursed, and as if life is a cursed experience, and not a gift from God.
The second protocol regards the vision of life in an gnostic and dark tragic worldview where there is no hope for salvation and no good meaning to be found.
The more morbid part of this business is that the system can actually enroll the Hikikomori in this industry by making themselves produce the very poised food that will keep them enslaved. That way, the spiritual liberation fails. The escapists are recaptured and drafted back as collaborators in the same system they wanted to get liberated from in the first place. The Hikikomori become the prison guards of the Hikimomori, producing spiritual food to keep themselves in the never ending trap of resentment and hatred.
This is a very strong leash, indeed, as even the more philosophical products of this culture of resentment can’t just escape the power of the tragic worldview. The cycle gets more and more reinforced. The need for basic things in the material world to survive, like food and shelter, are seen as the inescapable bars and chains that forms the prison of this life. This is pure Gnosticism. Again and again I checked the presence of this evil doctrine in so many cultural products in the pop culture that targets the socially withdrawn, and regarding the Japanese public in particular this can be seen in abundance in manga and anime. The food is poised, but is trusted by most Hikikomori as good food because is produced in many cases by the Hikikomori themselves, an almost irresistible sweet poison.
The only way out of this madness
Of course the more deep and honest souls will not be happy living in resentment, because that is just self-indulgent bullshit.
And this is why some Hikikomori, even after years and years of consumption of this poison that is supposed to give them strength to survive, can’t just live anymore after all light and joy have departed from their hearts. And many, unfortunately, prefer to die then to keep living an empty life.
This is a very strong, powerful and oppressive dark power. We can’t treat this lightly.
I lived through two suicidal phases in my life, in the years of 2002 and 2009.
I can tell from my personal experience: this is a very deep hardcore experience. Because it is so much obsessive. We can’t stop thinking about death and how that seems the only way out of the situation that we are leaving. Of course this is a spiritual attack, but when you are assaulted, you can’t see that coming from that angle, because you are so spiritually weak already. It is like the Devil worked for years making you more and more weak, to the point he knows you are too much vulnerable to perform any resistance, and then he attacks viciously and don’t let you have a moment of peace, never, until you finally give up. Tactically speaking, is a formidable aggression, and it is hard to survive against that.
But we can, just willing to survive. And all suicidal people knows this: in the end, you are the boss in that choice. You will only lose the fight for your life if you agree to do it freely. And this is very important to assume: OUR responsibility.
We can’t control the stream of bad thoughts that is attacking us during a crisis, I know that. But I also know the that stream, even being so powerful and irresistible, can’t actually pull the trigger, throw us out the window, take those pills, cut our wrists, or put out necks in the gallows. No, only WE can do that, and we will do that only if we want to do it. So, we are 100% responsible.
I am not shaming those that are living in such a critical condition. I am doing the opposite. I’m saying: look, you are free from this if you want to be. Or, as is written in the Word of God: resist the Devil, and he will get away; get close to God, and He will get closer to you.
And that because all this oppressive suicidal pressure is incapable of really killing you. Believe me, I know how this evil spiritual power wants to kill us, I felt it in my own flesh. But this power can’t touch us without our permission.
You want to know what is this darkness that wants you dead, my Hikikomori friend?
It is the SAME spirit that have bullied you all your life and cornered you into being socially withdrawn.
Yes, your bullies were not your parents, teacher, nor your school or job colleagues. All this people have been USED. Yes, they did wrong giving room in their hearts to be used in the cruel roles they performed against you, I know. That is their guilty. But you did the same, didn’t you? You gave room in your heart to resentment and to the Gnostic garbage feeling of tragedy and hopelessness in your life.
So, today the enemy to whom you opened room in your life is charging you his bill: he wants you dead. But he always wanted you to have a miserable life to the point of being in desire for death. The enemy is this: a killer. And you have allowed this treacherous villain to manipulate you to be in hate and resentment against other humans that he himself have manipulated, and to have the feeling of deep disgust for life.
Now, you need to resist this, and you can do it starting by admitting what you have done.
This is painful, I know, but is spiritually very powerful, you have no idea. You have NO IDEA.
Because the enemy is an accuser that holds power in spiritual legal terms, like a Prosecutor building a case for the sake of Justice. You stand accused for believing in dark and evil ideas, and for the nurturing of this things inside your heart for years and years. But the moment you admit you did wrong, something very important happens in the spiritual world: the moment of the judgement.
This is the moment that the enemy was waiting himself for, because in the critical instant we get aware that we did so wrong in our lives, he unleashes all darkness straight from Hell into our hearts and says this: you deserve to die. And we know it as the most sure and inevitable thing in the universe.
BUT, here something of crucial importance happens: the enemy have shown himself as what he is: a killer, and not a Prosecutor of Justice. Because a real Prosecutor of Justice can’t judge, only accuse, and with a confession from the accused he could rest his case with his job being done, delivering Justice to be done by the Judge. Sentencing us to die, and asking directly for our death, the Prosecutor exposes himself as something else.
During all those years in which we nurtured evil in our hearts, the enemy was hidden behind shadows, manipulating others and ourselves to prepare his perfect accusation piece. Now, however, he need to do something that he actually detest to do: to get out into the light.
The moment we confess that we are guilty, he goes forward and asks for our death.
And although we always deserve to die (and this is truth for ALL humans), in this moment of truth we can also check evil in the spotlight. Because Justice knows Mercy, but Evil just can’t.
If the Prosecution wanted JUSTICE, our confession was enough to serve Justice.
Because we finally stopped lying and admitted out guilty.
But because the Prosecution asks for our death, now the accuser stands accused: the Devil never wanted Justice, he always wanted just blood and death.
Jesus Christ proved this in the Cross, because He was, indeed, pure and innocent. Being put to death, He accused the accuser for the entire world to see. And now the accuser gets accused, now the perverse judgement gets judged. Through Jesus, we are free from evil.
Justice was the disguise of the accuser, and the source to his power, because WE avoided Justice by lying that we were pure, by taking part OURSELVES in the judgement of other people and God Himself, when we proclaimed that we were only innocent victims, and by believing that this life given by God is a curse. Even if we were bullied by people with evil intent, the moment we opened our hearts to resentment and hate we become partners with evil as well as our bullies did. We are as guilty as they are.
So, the pressure of suicidal thoughts eventually gives us a rare and painful moment of spiritual clarity in the exact critical moment of judgement. When we finally accept our guilty –and it is hard to get into killing yourself without that clear judgement in your mind–, we can be free from our lies and we can check the enemy out of disguise: he is not a promoter of Justice, but of Darkness.
This exact same opportunity could be lived in much more peace and joy if we wanted to know about Jesus Christ before going into this dance with the devil. But the price was too expensive to get good with God before: we needed to be humble. It was impossible to accuse our bullies and be in a humble and peaceful relationship with the Creator at the same time. We made our choice, turned our backs to forgiveness and peace, and now we live with the consequences.
But no consequence is terminal until we are alive. This is one of the beautiful things in being human.
The moment we get honest and humble about our spiritual guilty, although we do this in the most painful way by going deep into the darkness, we can still use the clarity of the moment to check the trickster and say this: “Hold on sir, you are a liar, a deceiver, and a killer!”
You can say: “Yes, I did wrong, but I was deceived by your doings, by your suggestions, by your poised food that intoxicated me all this years, and now you just want to destroy me? YOU are not in position to ask for my death!”
And here we go: if this false accuser, this sad and lost entity, can’t ask for your death, who can?
Before whom are you living after all?
You are living before the Creator of all things, God Almighty.
He was always waiting for you, because He loves you so much.
And you just had no idea of that, had you?
What to do if you are a Hikikomori
All you need is Love.
Yes, Love, that strange thing that was apparently so much denied to you all your life, but that you also have denied a lot in all this years living with a cold heart.
Well, first of all, you need spiritual awareness and discernment.
This is what you lacked the most all this time, and that is what got you in a bad position.
All I am saying here, I say with the authority of someone who LIVED all that shit. I am not bullshiting people to get into religion or anything, because I believe that religions are part of the same System of the Beast. There is no point into escaping slavery from one side to get into the same thing by the other side.
And that is what we do as socially withdrawn people: we refuse to take part in the slavery of the primary system, like the things we see in school or in a business career, but them we get into the slavery of a secondary system, the underground system of hate, resentment, judgement and darkness.
No, there is no salvation in any part of the system, because all the system does is to build extra layers in the same machine to accommodate all eventual anomalies in some form of slavery.
Salvation goes out of the system, in having a spiritual life with God, and that we do in our hearts accepting Love.
We accept Love by believing in it.
First, the Love of God.
So, if you are oppressed by your own Gnostic garbage that you hold all this years for the sake of nothing except your own suffering, you should know that God can’t be judged. Your illusions of having reasons against God are made of this: illusions. It’s a play. You are playing your role in a facade created by this big liar, the Devil. You can drop this useless weight at any given moment and ask God to show you who He is in His own terms, instead of believing in the propaganda of evil that makes you comfortable and proud with yourself.
Please, try the uncomfortable position of being humble before God.
Fight your cowardice as I did fought mine own before, and you will see how fooled you were.
You can be free from this darkness, but you need to want it.
If the poison feels too sweet to you, you can actually ask the Lord to release you and give you courage and strength,. You can actually ask for anything if you believe you can be saved, but that is the premise. If you don’t believe in salvation and in goodness, you have set your own terms and you are going to live by them. But you can always ask yourself this: what I am winning with this belief in my heart? What do I win believing in darkness? You just win the pleasure of being proud of your bad decision. You are a spiritual masochist.
Get out of it. Just ask!
Loving God starts by we asking Him to show us His Love, so we actually only need to be humble like an innocent child can. Confess: all you really want is to have a good life. Do this. Try God for serious and give Him time to do His thing in your life.
Humility is the key to Heart. Heart is the key to Love. And Love is the key to Life.
The other thing you can and should do regarding Love is to love other people, starting by two important things: forgiving and being compassionate.
I know, everybody sucks.
But here is the good news: you suck a lot too.
So, what is the point in judging?
There is no point. Get right with people.
Start by trying honoring your parents. God loves that.
By the way, do you know what that means? That means that your mother have not aborted you. And that means that being born, you has not been thrown into the garbage like a piece of trash. You have been nurtured, protected, and educated. And even if your actual parents did you some wrong things, someone have taken some care of you, or you would just not be alive right now. We need lots of nurturing and protection to grown up. And here we are now.
I know that Hikikomori have lots of problem with parents pressure, and there are always some old stuff that is hard to deal with.
But you can always set some better terms in your relationships.
Start that by being practical. Forgive all the offenses and nonsense discussion, and do some real good stuff. Offer yourself to do some service. Go buy some groceries, or at least help by carrying some bags. Take the trash out. Help in the cooking, or even start doing some cooking yourself. Clean your own room. Help to clean the living room, the kitchen, the backyard. Do some good stuff.
Learn to ask simple things like: “How can I help today?” or “Do you need something today?”
Here is the thing, parents push their children because they are afraid of lots of things. It will be good to you to just understand that. They are afraid of your dependence on them, and of your capability to survive by yourself, which is kind of a good concern, right? Put yourself into their position just a little. Try to be fair. They missed the point that your survival can’t be granted by them or by you, but can only be a blessing from the Lord. That is their fault, that lack of Faith. But actually, the forgiving is on you.
And they are also afraid of some things that are nonsense, because of their vanity and their greed, and that is their fault, of course. When parents push their kids because they don’t want to be known as bad parents in society, that is vanity, not love and caring. And when parents designs crazy ambitious dreams for the careers of their children, that is their problem and vanity again, and they should not be tormenting their progeny with their own madness, not even if they were tormented themselves by their own parents. Sometimes, unable to forgive their own parents for the pressure they suffered in the past, your parents just unleashes the same cargo on you. And now here we go: it is your time to decide to forgive that or not.
Forgiveness is a hard business, requires some deep courage, but is essential in the spiritual life. And it is very, VERY powerful, when you decide to be brave and when you finally do it.
You maybe can’t be that good as a student, or that good as a career climber. But you can at least start to help in the domestic tasks. If you treat your parents like slaves because you think you deserve that, since you have not asked to be born, you know what is coming to you later: you finally sentencing yourself to death, and that after lots of years of useless misery.
Get out of that! You can do it. But do you want to get out of darkness? I don’t know that. You tell me.
You can say this to your parents: “Look, I am not that good student or careerist that you wanted, but I will be a good son and I will honor you the best way I can”. Help them in everything that you can. And even if you can’t have the fantastic job of your dreams, maybe you can have that part job that pays you something just enough to help paying some of the bills and keep the lights on. Stop using your money to buy the poised food that is enslaving your soul, and help your parents, your family, and yourself with good stuff.
And we can talk about some other simple tips too.
Shut down your PC, your smartphone, your TV, your tablet.
Just turn off your gadgets.
Open your window.
The more unpleasant the experience, the better it will be for you, because you were in more need.
We need some healing here. Let’s do this.
You need to get outside. I know that hurts, believe me, and this is why it is going to work actually.
The trick here is that you don’t actually need social life. That is what is going wrong in your mind: you misplaced outdoor life with social life, because of the urban costume of packing people.
Forget that. Most people are full of shit and maybe you don’t need their company so much, at least for now. But you need life out of your dark room. You need the life in the world created not by men (your room, your house, your city), but in the world created by God.
You need some serious sunlight, some wind blowing in your face, the sounds of waves in a beach, of the wind bending the trees, and of birds singing around you. Just go and get that. I don’t care about your excuses, just do it. Believe in me and just do it.
And do it many times. There is no point in shutting down your leash-gadgets for one day and get out of your dark spot just for one walk. No, no, no. You need to give a fair play to the warmth and glow of the light. At least 50/50. Let’s see who will win.
God will heal your heart and you will be just ok. Eventually you will understand better this other dysfunctional, confused and ignorant creatures, your fellow human beings. And you will learn to appreciate them as the lost creatures they are just like yourself, or at least you will learn to have mercy for them like you desire to receive yourself.
You can do all this things if you just want to do it.
And if you don’t want to, you have only yourself to blame.
There is life out there, and life in abundance. Go get some.
God bless you!
What to do if you want to help a Hikikomori
Ok, so you are not a Hikikomori and you want to know how to deal with this strange being, right?
How about start by stop judging him?
That helps a lot.
Forgiving and being merciful is a good thing too.
You can do a lot just by preventing yourself from getting into that automated process of believing that you automatically know what is better for the life of this other human being, which if you are honest enough you are going to realize that you don’t know, otherwise you will not be here reading this, right? So, all this things you believe as solutions and good ideas are just that, beliefs. As the Hikikomori person himself (or herself) will do, you also will have to learn how to deal with this, if you actually care about him or her.
I strongly suggest you to just read everything I wrote in this post from the start and try to understand the position in life of an socially withdrawn person.
If you already did that, then you can guess what is ahead for you: helping this person in getting out of that trap of darkness.
Stop the pressure!
Instead of pushing for a perfect scholar/career attendance and performance, ask for help in simple things. Don’t talk about great plans and expectations. Talk about the real life stuff of everyday. Get the person involved in real life issues, out of that bubble of the cultural garbage. You need to learn the power of the words “help me”, and you need to be patient and to insist with tenderness even if you face rudeness and hatred.
Everybody is scared, I know, and it is just so easy to give up and let things go as they are.
But this accommodation will charge a heavy toll ahead. This is why we need to do our best to not let that darkness prevail.
Of course the Hikikomori can shut down completely and be close even to serious threats to yourself our their own life. Don’t hesitate in asking for the help of others in extreme cases of danger.
In general terms, in this relationship you need to learn to cool down the tensions during stressing times, instead of building up and escalating.
Tomorrow will be another day, you don’t need this thing to be solved today. Don’t transform a lost battle into a decisive battle. If you can’t win, learn to lose and withdrawn for today, so tomorrow you can fight again and have some success. And remember: the fight is not against the Hikimomori person, but against this evil spirits that are holding him or her into spiritual bondage.
Some trips to isolated places with vast outdoors can help a lot.
Some people believe that the Hikikomori needs to heal by having a social life. I understand this, specially in the context of the eastern culture of some places like Japan and Korea, where the meaning of life sometimes is reduced by being positioned inside society.
But I think this is a mistake in the early stages of the healing.
We need to consider the reasons for the decision that a person made to become socially withdrawn. And the main reason is the falseness, the hypocrisy, the cruelty and other traits of the social life. The Hikikomori got that so deep in their experiences, that trying to do healing by exposing them to social life can become the opposite thing, not healing but torturing.
I understand that some special groups works by design for the purpose of providing good social experiences for the Hikikomori without the crazy pressures of society, and this is a good thing. You can work with this groups to get some support, specially if we are talking about socially withdrawn children that are not yet so damaged by their own bad decisions in life.
But the outdoor experience in low populated and peaceful places works very well in all cases, and it is good for the spiritual healing. Sometimes the Hikikomori can even think about doing this, but actually needs someone to get him or her by hand and offering to do this thing together.
Maybe if you want to help you need to sacrifice somethings in your life just to be able to help, like doing some company in a trip or in a simple walk. I strongly suggest getting out of urban centers for some vacation period traveling in some rural areas of the country, or maybe even visiting other countries with other rhythms of life. Remember: staying in the very environment that pushed the Hikikomori into isolation probably will not help them in getting out of that defensive stance. Sometimes we need to change the environment to change the perspectives in life. This works for everyone, but much more for a Hikikomori that by definition are shut down in judgement about what they think the world is based in their experience of their immediate environment.
Finally, I must say that I consider the real solution to be a spiritual one. That means that if you really want to help, you may need all God’s aid, so you can be like a blessing from the Lord in the life of the Hikikomori person.
If your own spiritual life is not good, this can be very hard, because you will deal with this only with non-spiritual resources, and they are very limited to deal with a spiritual problem. If you don’t have a life of Faith and consider spirituality to be just the performing of religious rituals and protocols, you can’t really understand what I am talking about here.
I know that the Gospel of Jesus Christ was somehow preached in the Far East, but I don’t think is enough of a broad message, nor that it really works in spiritual terms with all confusion in the works of the very christian religion development.
But here are the good news: you can get that right if you want it, if you just pray and ask God for guidance. I am not talking about one random god or entity, like a spirit in nature, an family ancestral, or something like that. I am talking about the Creator of all things, the one that says in scriptures: “The Heaven is my throne, and Earth is the rest of my feet.”
You can get a Bible and start reading it searching for understanding if you want, and you may get a blessing greater then you thought: not only learning how to deal with your Hikikomori problem-person, but getting right your own relationship with the Almighty God, to have a real spiritual life with Him. You not only can be a blessing in the Hikikomori life, but a blessed person yourself in this spiritual process.
God bless you!